Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Getting through

"You don't get over it, you just get through it. You don't get by it, because you can't get around it. It doesn't 'get better'; it just gets different. 
Everyday... Grief puts on a new face...."
 -Wendy Feireisen

It doesn't get any more real than that. I have always said "It is just different." I have heard it described as "softer" and I think that applies too at times, but it is always there. always.

There are some things that are comforting and heartwarming through all of this. I think I can speak for a lot of mommy's who have lost a baby who fear that people will forget their children after they are gone when they are all you can think about.

Can you even imagine the comfort I found when I received this text from one of my very best friends the other day?

 My heart swelled about a million times that my babies and I mean so much to her that she took time out on Father's Day to visit them.  I cannot even count how many times she has listened to me talk through these horrid, awful feelings I have felt over the last almost 2 years. Sometimes in the middle of the night in the first few months. 

Thank you, Dani, for visiting my sweet precious really does mean the world to me.


  1. What a blessing, what a treasure!

  2. Kim I Just wanted to say thank you for the comment it was really wise and good. SO true about the confusion literally flip back and forth wanting to get better then wanting to stay here ;/ Anyway I want to say thanks, I can not answer you on comments because you email is not turned on in your profile. Maybe you should write a post about this you seem to have a lot of wisdom on it :)_

  3. That's so sweet! You have an amazing friend!